Do you know how to define happiness? Do you think happiness is the same thing to you as others? What’s the point of it all? Does it even make a difference in our lives? We think we work hard to achieve success, and then we are happy. But it doesn’t work like that in real life. We do great work and have success, but we just set new goals instead of being happy. It keeps getting pushed further and further away. And we never get to happiness. If we start with being happy, we feel great, look great, do exercises, listen to music, feel positive emotions, and feel enjoyment. Aristotle says,” happiness depends upon Ourselves.” I have a positive attitude, a good mood, Happy times, and life feel great most of the time. I wish I were always positive. I am not saying it is not possible, but just hard.
Different behaviors can also measure happiness. Behaviors that involve gratitude, acts of kindness or generosity, and appreciation. Behaviors would be smiling and laughing. The Duchenne smile, meaning smiling with your eyes, is a sign of a genuine smile. Duchenne smile is another behavior that can be observed, and it has connected with good thoughts and happiness.
Many of us think our happiness depends on other people agreeing with us, liking us, valuing us, understanding us, and wanting to be in our company. But it just doesn’t work like that. We can pin our happiness on outside circumstances, things going our way, and the people we love, who love us back in the right way we want to be loved. But you are setting yourself up. People are who they are, things don’t always work out exactly the way we think they should, and not everyone will like you. And then life becomes messy. The good news is that life is messy when YOU get to be who you are, and YOU don’t have to like everyone. And things won’t always go the way others think they should when it comes to you. There is no way you could give everyone exactly what they want when they want it on earth. That’s a relief! Our true happiness cannot be found in others. Instead, we have to look inside ourselves to find it. Start looking for happiness within you, not outside of you. Start creating and explore your potential; any activity that draws creativity from you and teaches you about yourself can help you. Once you experience the joy of doing something well and learning from your mistakes, you will be less prone to depending on others to fulfill you.
What Sources create true personal happiness:
It is imperative to find sources of happiness in your life that aren’t tied to people or stuff. Because you can’t always depend on people or stuff to be there for you all the time, if your happiness is only tied to them, it will be much easier to lose that happiness when they are gone. People come and go like, relationships change, people, move, die, or lose touch over time. Material things come and go like, a new computer eventually stops working, you lose things, you forget things. When your happiness is only tied to constantly changing things, you will get easily caught up in the inevitable ups and downs in life. Here are sources of happiness that aren’t tied to people and material things.
Pursuing creative and meaningful goals includes writing, reading, starting a blog, to taking up photography. Pursuing just for yourself and your joy and satisfaction.
Learn how to sit and appreciate things precisely as they are, without always wanting to change them.
Appreciating moments of everyday nature is one readily available source of happiness.
Focus on healthy mental habits such as finding things to be grateful for and reflecting on your strengths.
Experiences of positive emotions, including joy, pride, contentment, and gratitude.
7 Ways to be Happy right now:
So, what are the Big 7? Based on the Book” THE HAPPINESS EQUATION” written by NEIL PASRICHA, How do you be happy first? Big 7 ways to train your brain to be happy. If you do these seven things for two straight weeks, you will feel happier.
1) Three Walks:
Yes. People who are more physically active have more pleasant, activated feelings than less active people. Half an hour of brisk walking three times a week improves happiness. Three thirty-minute brisk walks or jogs even improve recovery from clinical depression.
2) The 20- Minute Replay:
Writing for twenty minutes about a positive experience dramatically improves happiness. It helps us remember things we like about people and experiences in our lives. It’s relived the experience as you write it and then relive it every time you read it. Your brain sends you back. What does the 20- Minute Replay do?
3) Random Acts of Kindness:
Carrying out five random acts of kindness a week dramatically improves your happiness.
4) A Complete Unplug:
Unplugging is often isolated to something you do in the wilderness away from smartphones and tablets that steal your time with meaningless crap, memes, bullshit, and other people’s drama. Its disconnection from the chaos of life comes in multiple forms; social media doesn’t align with our values, heart-centered desires, society’s expectations, schedules, and demands, a traditional path that does not make you feel alive, a relationship that doesn’t serve you. When a complete Unplugged, it means Myself and Life, Relaxed, carefree.
5) Hit Flow:
Get into a groove. Be in the zone. Find your flow. However you characterize it when you are completely absorbed with what you are doing, it means you are being challenged and demonstrating skill simultaneously. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi describes this moment as” being completely involved in an activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Times flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one, like playing jazz. Your whole being is involved, and you are using skills to the utmost”.
6) 2- Minute Meditations:
If we have 2- minutes to meditate, we tell ourselves,’ oh, two minutes is nothing. You are acclimating yourself to the practice of bringing mindfulness and awareness into ordinary moments of your life. Meditation is about relaxing with the truth. When we sit in that vulnerability, we can get in touch with our thoughts, emotions, and body.
7) Five Gratitudes:
If you can be happy with simple things, it will be simple to be happy. Find a book or a journal, start a website and write down three to five things you are grateful for from the past week. Write down five gratitudes, five hassles, or five events over the past week for ten straight weeks. Guess what happened?
You know it is essential to be happy first, and these are the seven ways to get there. By driving a car, throwing a football, or doing a headstand, You can learn to be Happier.
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