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REJECTION – What does it mean in Life?

Rejection basically means exclusion from a group, an interaction, information, communication, and emotional intimacy. Rejection means to push something or someone away. Rejection can also involve other uncomfortable emotions, such as embarrassment and awkwardness. No one likes rejection, it doesn’t matter if it comes from friends, family, coworkers, and a crush. Rejection is pretty much inevitable in some capacity, it still hurts. It’s painful to get shut down for something you want, whether it’s a date with a crush or a job at your dream company. Everyday situations can lead to feelings of rejection. Life is about going for things. And when we do, rejection is always a possibility. Different phases of life bring different opportunities and situations where we have got to put ourselves out there and be vulnerable. When you take risks in life, you face the possibility that you might be shut down or might not make the cut. Rejection can lead to codependent, clingy, obsessive, jealous, or angry behavior. It can make you drive others away from you. It can cause you to reject others to avoid being rejected yourself. Overall, a rejection can result in a very damaging pattern of emotion and behavior that can cause real hurt to relationships and your enjoyment life in general. While some people can move on from rejection easily, others find the feeling terrible, so much so that it triggers an overwhelming emotional response. When you are faced with a rejection of any type, one of the most important things is to remember that there’s more to life than the one rejection from that one person or thing and that there are plenty of other people who are on your side.


Rejection causes negative beliefs about your value and offspring many negative feelings. Rejection causes you to value or bring down yourself considering other people’s attitudes or actions. Rejection also causes offense. Rejection happens when people do not accept you; displayed disapproval of you; have an unfavorable response toward you; do not believe in you; don’t receive you willingly and favorably; don’t understand you; don’t esteem, respect, or admire you and do not regard you as normal. As we all have experienced, rejection is a part of life. You can’t avoid it. Rejection can be extremely painful because it may have the effect of making people feel as if they are not wanted, valued, or accepted. Most individuals will experience rejection at some point in their lives. Here are types of rejection that occur in day-to-day life, such as:

  1. Social Rejection may occur at any age and can often begin in childhood. Those who challenge the status quo or who live what is considered outside the norm for their society may be more prone to social rejection.

  2. Unspoken Rejection It is completely heartbreaking when your spouse rejects you through ignoring you. Being ignored can hurt just as much as an outright “no” because it makes you feel so bad about yourself. which can make you angry and upset. For those with low self-esteem, the rejection can set you back even further and be incredibly hard to overcome.

  3. Uncaring Rejection, this can come off as incredibly rude and uncaring, which is the opposite of how you want to make your spouse feel. While it’s better than being completely ignored because you do get a response, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t sting. The best way to come back from a flat-out rejection is to take a step back from your emotions and logically assess the situation.

  4. Rejection in a relationship happened when most people while dating or in a relationship. When it comes to relationships, all possible sources of rejection are not so simple. Feelings of rejection can be caused by issues like your everyday expectations not being met by your partner, an incidence of infidelity or a real shocker like a sudden announcement by your partner of their desire to leave. Ghosting is never a good approach, but some people just lack good communication skills or think saying, “You’re nice and cute, but I didn’t quite feel it” might hurt you, when, in fact, you’d really appreciate the honesty.

  5. Family Rejection may be one of the hardest things a person can go through. It’s understandable to experience waves of hurt and grief, and these are feelings that don’t go away overnight. As hard as it is, remind yourself that you can’t control your family’s behavior. You can control how you respond to it. Focus on your own emotional growth to come out of the grieving process of feeling.

Being rejected, it’s bad enough that our brains are wired to feel pain from rejection. It activated the same areas of our brain as physical pain. That’s right, rejection causes you literal pain. Its emotional pain, but that’s often the worst kind. All forms of rejection can hurt, and when the rejecting is done by a trusted loved one, it can deeply impact self-worth and self-confidence. Rejection comes to us in many forms:

  1. Being left out of the group or family.

  2. Being told “I don’t love you”

  3. Experiencing an unwanted breakup.

  4. Not landing the job or position, not getting into the college.

  5. Being slighted or treated as if you are not there.

  6. Not being picked for the team.

  7. Being undervalued, not prioritized in a relationship.

We can take rejection pain as an advantage. Rejection can provide opportunities for self-discovery and growth. You need to increase your feelings of self-worth. Remind yourself of your worth, building up self-confidence and self-worth. The best way to overcome this pain is to take actions. No matter the source of the rejection, it still hurts. Other people might see what happened as no big deal and encourage you to get over it, but the pain might remain, especially if you happen to have a higher sensitivity to rejection. Sometimes a rejection is a harsh reality check. But if you approach it right, it could help push you in a direction that turns out to be the perfect fit for your talents, personality, and all the really great things that make you WHO YOU ARE.

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